Escape from emotions: how to stop?

If in childhood we constantly encountered emotional neglect of the parents, this is inevitably manifested in adulthood – we avoid emotions or do not understand why they are needed, but at the same time we feel deeply unhappy. Is it possible to abandon this protective mechanism?

What can happen to the child, whose parents are rarely interested in his experiences? And if they are interested, then they are inattentively listened or responded “on duty”. What adults he becomes? Surely here you can imagine a large uncle (or aunt) – clogged, detached, practically not talking to anyone.

But the reality is that people who are faced with emotional neglect have developed their own protection mechanism-avoidance, which allows them to join the world, where everyone exchanges information and somehow interact. Such men and women, outwardly quite successful, look happy, sociable, but actually deeply unhappy inside. Why?

I often encounter work with such emotional neglect of children. They are all different, but at the same time they are in many ways. And this leads me to thoughts about what.

A child who has met with emotional neglect learns to avoid emotions, he does not understand why they are needed at all. He seems to be stony, thereby losing what makes a person alive, emotional, capable of empathy. Instead, shame for their feelings and low self -esteem settle in the childhood soul. The internal directive settles in it: it is forbidden to feel!

He from an early age becomes like invisible. The child is growing, developing, communicating and friends with someone, but constantly experiences discomfort, manifested in the feeling of himself worse than others, thoughts that others see him only in negativity. It’s scary to approach others – it’s easier to observe the distance. After all, proximity is primarily emotional proximity.

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